Beyond Frustration

When I am frustrated with life, my negative talk, meaning the voice in my head that can be self-deprecating, is yelling at me.

Can you relate?

Frustration can lead to growth.

Each day I work on remembering that we grow through life.

It all depends on perspective.

I admit there are moments that I am cursing under my breath, and I regress.

I did have one of those days recently and found myself pissed off at the world.

I was so uncomfortable in that mood, and it took several hours for me to come to the understanding of what exactly had set me off.

It was a typical day for Steve and me. We were driving through town, noticing the new building and changes that were taking place right under our noses and so quickly.

I noticed I was getting aggravated, and I had no idea why. I didn’t like the gloomy outlook that I was sitting in.

As I contemplated my mood and explored my feelings, I began to see a glimpse of the cause.

I wasn’t sure if it was something I wanted to share or could speak out loud. I was vulnerable and was worried that I would share my dark cloud by discussing it.

Later that evening, when we were talking about trivial things, I got my nerve up.

I told Steve how I ended up so angry and wasn’t sure why.

In hindsight, it is so easy for me to see the “why.”

Those emotional, scary cancer thoughts had snuck up on me once again.

You might know the thoughts.

The thoughts that show up most often as you contemplate another test.

‘Will I be here when”?

My outlook on life has changed over the years.

My perspective began to evolve before my diagnosis, and thank goodness it had.

And that is how I deal with frustration.

I examine it while crossing my fingers that, in the end, I will grow from it.

I’ve learned to give myself grace.

And that in its self is growth.

Can a Strength become a Weakness?

 

Have you ever read anything about the field of Positive Psychology?

It shows that “happy people are those that have discovered their unique strengths and use those strengths and virtues for a purpose that is greater than their own personal goals”.

We all may have had a certain strength that is so natural that we may not even consider them strengths.

Think about a time in your life when you know that you were performing at your best.

What qualities enabled you to perform like that?

Here is my example.

My Strength — I can connect with people easily.

I’ve come to realize that as a manager of a team, I am able to form a trusting relationship with an employee who reports to me.

I didn’t realize this was a strength until it was pointed out to me by my own manager.

On the flip side, my strength can easily become a weakness.

Here is how.

As a manager, I need to keep in mind that if an employee feels too comfortable with me as their boss, this can cause a problem.

I have needed to learn to draw the line between being their manager and being their friend and this is not always an easy task.